From now on, I want you to call me by my new title: Ref (short for referee). That’s right; I’m going to start calling the balls and strikes, and then count you out. I alone will determine when you’re out of bounds or your time has run out. If, in my opinion, you fail to run fast enough or fail to run in the allotted time or within the prescribed boundaries, you’ll be out. I’ll decide when you’re up, if it’s still your turn or if you should sit out a few rounds. Whatever I say, goes; you must accept whatever I rule.
Trust me; it will be much easier this way. I’m taking all of the decision-making out of your hands and, in return, no one will blame you if you never hit another home run or score anything, anywhere. So, don’t trouble yourself with ideas about where you want to go or what you want to do with the rest of your life – I’ll let you know because I know what you’re good at and what you stink at. Don’t worry your pretty little head about such mundane things as success or goals, or whether or not you’re doing the right thing with your life because I’m the one making the calls here. And, for Pete’s sake, don’t try to “learn” from your past in order to “prepare” for the future – you can’t see the “big picture” like I can. You just leave all of that scary stuff to me, the Ref.
If this sounds silly to you, congratulations! You recognize that no one can tell you if you’ve got another at-bat or if you’re out of the game unless you allow them – no one but you. Oh, and maybe God, but then I’m pretty sure if God says you’re out it means you’re dead!
If, on the other hand, you’ve got arguments and/or excuses proving there really are times when life hands you crap and that’s just the way life is sometimes, then congratulations to you too. No amount of positive instruction about goal-setting or guidance in structuring and recognizing your successful accomplishments will convince you that you’re in charge of your own decisions. But, who cares? So, congratulations . . . you don’t get a vote in your own life and you don’t matter.
That’s exactly how absurd it is when you say something like “I can’t sell widgets in this economy; people just won’t buy right now” or “this is the wrong time of year for widgets” or, one of my favorites, “I’m really good at this, but my team is bringing me down.” But, like the Ref said, it’s not your fault!
Hogwash. Whether you step up to the plate or not is entirely up to you. Whether you get a hit or a miss is entirely up to you. And, if someone else on your team strikes out or hits a home run it has absolutely no bearing on your strengths and abilities. Can you hear me alright?
Your time here on this planet is what you make it. Your success at work or at home or in your relationships is only what you make it. Life is not a football game; you’ve got as many downs as you need or want, it’s your decision. Your work environment is not a baseball game – if you strike out one, two or even three times, you get up and try it again until you get it right. It’s your decision to succeed or quit. Comprende?
And here’s another thing. Have you ever watched a football game and noticed how safe the offense plays at the beginning of the game? The offense gets four chances (downs) to move the ball ten yards. If they don’t make the ten yards in three downs, and in order to avoid turning the ball over on downs, they will kick on the fourth down hoping to get the ball back later and try again to score.
That all changes as it gets late in the game. You won’t see a team take the risk of keeping the ball on fourth down until very late in the fourth quarter and only if they are behind. In other words, only at that point does the need to score outweigh the risk of turning over the ball. That’s when they “go for it.” Interesting, isn’t it? What if they played every down as though it was late in the fourth quarter?
We don’t have a limited number of quarters or downs at work or in life; but, what if we did and what if you played to win in every quarter like it was fourth down with two minutes to play and you were behind? Many companies and/or teams focus their attention on attaining certain targets early in a period. Everybody is fresh and eager at the beginning of a promotion. However, as deadlines approach (the dreaded fourth quarter) many team leaders will switch to survival mode by pulling back resources and playing it safe so as not to lose – they kick the ball assuming they won’t get the needed yards.
Leaders in outperforming teams will actually take greater risk in every quarter and be more likely to experiment by changing up the plays or re-arranging key players or whatever it takes. The leaders and teams who win are the ones who “go for it” no matter what the risk – they run the play and pick up yards or keep swinging until they make it to first base.
Whatever you decide – how many at-bats you have, if you’re running fast enough to win, or whether you want to win at all – at least have the courage to make your own decisions about your own life. When you start making excuses or playing it safe, you hand over the whistle and allow someone else to be your ref. It’s your decision.
Now, I need something from you. I get the feeling that all of you are just sitting there in front of your computer asking me to feed you advice. Hey, this is my life’s work and I’m happy to give you whatever I’ve got and to work with you one-on-one anywhere, anytime. But, come on folks; give me something back. I want to hear from you. I want you to tell me what’s happening where you work and live – what’s working for you and what’s not working. I want you to give me feedback. So, don’t just sit there like a bump on a log, tap out a response in my blog. Are you the one who jumps at the chance to run for extra yards, or would you rather kick the ball and hope for something better if time permits. I want to know what you did and how you did it when you decided to go for it!
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How to Make Your Goals a Reality
What do you want your 2012 to look like? Maybe the better question is: How much control do you believe you have in what happens in this day, this week, or this New Year? Here’s another good one: What is your self-talk saying to you right now about which or how many, if any, new levels of achievement you will reach this year?
Self-talk is the equivalent of setting and then controlling your life according to your internal GPS. GPS is nothing more than navigation, guidance, and control. Navigation tracks your current location (knowing where you are); guidance uses the navigational data in plotting your targets (knowing where you’re going); and, control is your command center (your brain), which accepts the navigational data and target information to create and effect change. Incidentally, GPS doesn’t care if you’ve traveled a road before or if you were successful or not; it simply lets you know where you are now and how to get where you want to go next.
Self-talk is the key to everything we do, how we do it, when, where and why. Self-talk determines what we accomplish. Self-talk controls the direction you move in all areas of your life. Self-talk is what propels you to new heights, or stops you from reaching just a little bit further than you did last year. And, unless you’re aware of it, self-talk is usually stealthy. In less time than it takes to read this sentence, your self-talk can shut down the exciting (and sometimes urgent) messages of direction from deep down in your soul.
How we live our lives – everything from improving our health to making money or from trying new hobbies to dealing with spouses – is guided, influenced and/or directed by self-talk. Even as you are reading this right now, your self-talk is evaluating what you are reading and making judgments. Maybe you are telling yourself that somehow you’re different, that other people have all the luck, or that you’ve really tried “____________” (insert your special demon, i.e., losing weight, making more money, etc.) but it just didn’t work for you in the past. That is a self-talk statement that is not true; but, unfortunately, it has become your truth because you have repeatedly told yourself so. Listen carefully: we move toward what we are saying to ourselves. Our internal GPS determines where we are, where we need (or want) to go, and how we can get there from here. We all talk to ourselves all the time. We are always telling ourselves what we can do and what we cannot do: right or wrong, good or bad. And, that’s a gift!
I could go on for pages and pages talking with you and explaining how your self-talk is the key to self improvement and it's your gift to accomplishing whatever you desire in 2012. But, I’ve got a better idea. In my first book, Power to Change, starting on page 41, I explain in detail how to master your self-talk – that you are, in fact, already a master of your self-talk. Read this free download section on how to manage your most powerful tool in accomplishing your 2012 objectives.
You move toward whatever you are saying to yourself, so why not chose to step it up and achieve some awesome outcomes? I promise you: nothing is too big, too good, or too far away for you. Everything is within your reach. You are your self-talk and you own the tools to create some amazing results in your life.